Simplicity, Love, and ADHD
How can we create a more loving situation, environment, and energy within our families as we go through some difficult challenges with parenting with ADHD? The last couple of years have been really rewarding for us as a family as we've applied concepts and techniques in the ways that we show up.
I'd like to start by sharing a quote from Albert Einstein. He says, "The leader is one who out of the clutter brings simplicity, out of discord, harmony, and out of difficulty, opportunity." I just came across this quote this week, and I absolutely love it. I think that the way that when I first read it, it came across that each of the three different areas, brings simplicity, harmony, and opportunity as three separate activities that are done by the leader. But as I've read it more, I actually believe that the first one directly impacts the other two. By bringing simplicity we then see harmony, and then we can see the opportunity that's available to us.
I'd like to talk a little bit about how we can apply this as a parent in general, but specifically with parenting ADHD. By creating simplicity, we will then ultimately have harmony, and then we can progress into seeing opportunity. Another kind of business concept that is tied to this. I believe Dave Ramsey and Dan Martell have both said similar things around the idea that you work to build up your yourself, then you work to build up those around you such as your managers or your coworkers, your teams, and then ultimately, you reach a point where you start to give back and you maybe outreach to maybe nonprofit organizations or to other charities or groups to be able to give back in that way.
I believe that we have a similar type of journey as a parent with parenting ADHD kids. Often in moments of frustration, I'm able to come back around and say, what if we try this and every single time the thing that worked was one of the most simplistic things of building the relationship and creating simple processes or routines that allow for success because I have found by looking back where the success was. I'm going to state the quote again from Albert Einstein because I just loved it so much but this time I'm going to replace a word. "The parent is the one who out of the clutter or chaos brings simplicity, out of discord brings harmony, and out of difficulty finds opportunity." I hope that you love that quote as much as I do. If you are in a space where you feel complete hopelessness please know that you are not alone. I hope that you know that it doesn't have to always be that way that you can make a couple of small changes and see some really big, impactful changes come from that in a really short amount of time. Don't be afraid to just choose one thing at a time.
